Taking Time Off from Grieving

Let’s be very honest here. Grief is hard work. It affects us emotionally, mentally, and physically, and it is not to be taken lightly. When we’re grieving, we’re processing a profound loss, adjusting to a new reality, and carrying emotions that can feel overwhelming. That’s why it’s okay—more than okay—to take time off from grieving.

Many people don’t realize that stepping away from grief, even for a short while, can be a healthy part of healing. The key is to understand the difference between distraction and avoidance.

Distractions are brief. They might last a few minutes or a few hours, and they serve as a gentle pause from the intense emotions that come with loss. Watching a movie, spending time with a friend, listening to music, or enjoying a quiet walk are all ways we can give our hearts a moment to breathe. These small moments of relief help restore our strength, allowing us to return to the work of grieving with a little more balance.

Avoidance, on the other hand, is a turning away from the pain in a deeper, ongoing way. It often involves ignoring our feelings, staying constantly busy, or emotionally shutting down. While it may seem like a way to cope, avoidance can actually make grief more difficult in the long run, preventing us from fully healing.

Taking time off from grieving isn’t about forgetting or moving on; it’s about caring for yourself in the midst of mourning. It’s okay to laugh, smile, and even enjoy life again. These moments don’t diminish your loss. They honor your resilience.

Grief is a journey, and like any journey, it’s important to rest along the way. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace. And know that healing doesn’t require you to be in pain all the time. It simply asks that you keep walking, one step at a time.

“Sometimes, we just need a quiet moment to remember that we are still here, still breathing, still healing. And that is enough for today.” —Unknown